If you want to be interesting, be interested.

If you want to be interesting, be interested.

I have always liked this notion.

The idea that if you want to connect with someone, especially if you have just met, be interested in them, rather than trying to be interesting yourself.

It’s a short cut to being liked, but also the fabric of a better kind of relationship, where the other feels seen, feels heard, feels that you care.

We all know what they feels like as the receiver, it’s lovely. But also as a giver, to lean in, to really engage, it’s lovely too.

But I have come to realise that sentiment, is also powerful beyond the interpersonal.

If you want to be interesting, be interested in the world around you.

Notice things.
Connect things.
Explore things.

Ask questions.

What’s going on here? Why is that like that? What happens if I put that there? What would happen if I placed that here? Where is the common ground? Where are the differences?

It’s the engine of curiosity. The meta skill of being interesting but also of finding the world more interesting.